When You Thought I Wasn't Looking!


When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator and I immediately wanted to paint another.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make my favorite cake for me and I learned that the little things can be special things in life.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I heard you say a prayer, and I knew there was a God I could always talk to and I learned to trust God.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I learned that we all have to take care of each other.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you give of your time and money to help people who had nothing and I learned that those who have something should give to those who don’t.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you take care of our home and everyone in it and I learned we have to take care of what we are given.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn’t feel good and I learned that I would have to be responsible when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw tears come from your eyes and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it’s all right to cry.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw that you cared and I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I learned most of life’s lessons that I need to know to be a good and productive person when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I looked at you and wanted to say, “THANKS for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn’t looking“.

There Is Enough Blame To Go Around!


There is enough blame to go around! The housing crisis has caused enough heart ache to last us a lifetime. Who is to blame for this disaster? Is it the real estate agent? Is it the mortgage officer? Is it the lender? Is it the invester? Is it the bank? Is it our legislators? Maybe it is the owner of the home? Heaven forbid it be the home owner! I wonder when or if the day will ever come when we will look in the mirror and see who we are.

If we look at the housing problem, it shouldn’t be too difficult to see that there is enough blame to go around. The real estate agent should be counseling their buyer or seller about the lay of the land. The mortgage officer should not draft loans that can not be justified. Justified with common sense, if not on paper. The lender and invester need to do their homework.

Our legislators have crafted laws to encourage home ownership. It would be difficult to find fault with that position. However, enough is enough! This is probably where the greed and fraud come in. There is not a person on this planet that is not going to watch out for their own best interests. However, when common sense and respect for our fellow man seem to be in question, there is probably something wrong with our actions. The key is to never cross the line.

We can all find reasons or excuses to take ourselves off the hook. It seems to be part of the human fiber. We don’t want to take the blame for anything. If someone else is doing something wrong, we seem to find a way to justify our involvement.

Parenting is a wonderful opportunity to nurture this most difficult problem called the blame game! It all takes time. Nothing happens over night. However, if we give these concerns a high priority in our lives and have a conscious awareness of their importance, we can make a difference. We can make a difference in our kids lives as well as in our own lives. Call it a Grass Roots approach. We all need to remember that our kids are watching. It is very important that we lead by example.

The work place may be the number one battle ground for the Blame Game. It is very easy to blame a co-worker or the BOSS. If we could get to a place where we did not view ourselves as the victim, we would have gone the extra mile to better the situation. There is enough blame to go around. It is very rare this is not the case.

So what is the solution? The Blame Game has been a problem since we have known about problems! The thought that comes to my mind would be to know where the journey is going to end, before it starts. If we think clearly and ask ourselves, what is the right thing to do, we can avoid most conflict. We need to do a better job respecting the feelings of other people and build relationships based on mutual trust.

People with a positive outlook on life and and a willingness to accept responsiblity for their actions generally do not find themselves in the middle of the Blame Game! They are also the kind of person people want to spend time with.

For those of you reading this blog, my hope would be that we all accept responsibility for our actions. You can legislate until we are blue in the face, but the solution to our many problems is more about how WE conduct ourselves, on a daily basis.

I wish you all the best! HUBBA! HUBBA!

Grass Roots Approach To Life!


The story is told of a man by the name of Melvin. Melvin’s top priority, in life, was to win the lottery. Melvin attended church on a regular basis. He was there to pray to win the lottery. One day while praying a big voice came from above, Melvin! Melvin responded, is that you Lord? The Lord responded back, yes Melvin. Melvin asked the Lord, did I win the lottery? The Lord asked Melvin, would you come part way with me and Melvin said he would do anything, to win the lottery! The Lord said, Melvin, BUY A TICKET!

The message, in this story, is pretty simple. If you want something, you must go get it! It will not find you. There are 10 little words that tell it all. IF IT IS TO BE, IT IS UP TO ME!

Grass Roots Approach to Life

The first time the idea of Grass Roots came to my mind was in 1990. Paul Wellstone,  soon to be a US Senator from Minnesota, ran a Grass Roots senate campaign. He drove around the state in a green school bus. He also drove that bus to Washington DC. He did not spend alot of money. He drove to the people and delivered his message.

Jesse and I have been parents for some 45 years now. I believe we approached our parenting in the same fashion as Paul Wellstone approached his run for the senate. Attention to the detail was our mission statement. When the kids had an activity, we were there. When our daughters had something exciting happen, we were there to share in the joy. When there was a moment of sadness, we were there to encourage and support. When I look back, we had a Grass Roots approach to our parenting. We needed to provide strong leadership. Our kids needed to know we were going to be there for them.

In 1969 I finished college and started teaching and coaching. It was my first real job! My mind set was to pay attention to the detail. Every student/athlete had needs. It was important to find time for each student, even if it was to simply say good morning. I taught high school math and coached basketball. I believed every class session, every basketball practice, every math topic, and every student’s well being were important. There are many ways to demonstate that our intentions are genuine. I found that a Grass Roots approach gave me the best chance of reaching out to help a student with the things that really mattered.

If we could improve the student’s self esteem, self confidence, work ethic, self discipline, and positive outlook on life it was worth every minute of effort!

I have been in the Corporate IT Recruiting field since 1988. I have been independent for the last 20 years. That same Grass Roots approach continues to follow me around. I believe that every call I make, every letter I write, every deal I am involved in, and every handshake are important to my master plan.

If I placed a person and they are still there, I call them on their anniversary. I do this every year. I make sure that call is on or before their anniversary. I do not send an email, letter, text, or any other form of communication. I believe a personal call is the only way to go.

How often we have heard a person say they did not have time to do whatever! It is my strong belief that we should never use that excuse again. It has not and will not ever be true. We need to find the time for the things that really matter. It may seem a bit harsh, but that approach is the “all about me” attitude!

For those of you reading this blog, my hope is you find an effective way to help the people around you. It serves as a source of great joy for both parties involved.

If you want to apply the Grass Roots approach, click the button to the right, on the top, or at the bottom, and enjoy the ride. Give yourself a chance to have your own business deal. Explore an on-line marketing opportunity with 100% commissions with no cold calls! I wish you all the best! HUBBA! HUBBA!

Our Special Moment - April 28, 1967


Our special moment! The day of our wedding had arrived. My wife, Jesse and I were about  to get hitched. We had been together for 4 years. Our first date was a hayride. You heard it right, a hayride!

Our Special Moment - April 28, 1967

I was in my second year of college and Jesse was working at the local hospital, as a nurse’s aid. We had rented an apartment on campus. Our rent was $55.00 a month. I think the unit had about 500 square feet of living space. However, it was our very first home and we were pretty proud campers! It was time to play house. Ha!

Jesse pretty much planned and organized our wedding. To say it was low budget would be an understatement! Jesse’s wedding dress was beautiful. It was who wore the dress that made it especially beautiful. The cost was $75.00. We were just kids. I might also say kids with their feet on the ground and head on their shoulders. I was 20 years old. Jesse was 18.

I must admit I fell head over heels for Jesse. Jesse was only 14 at the time. I was 16. Jesse was and still is a good looking chick. I was kind of a nerd. We enjoyed our time together. We also had our little spats. That made making up all that much more enjoyable.

Our Special Moment - April 28, 1967

I remember watching Jesse come down the isle. We were both very nervous. I am sure we had many things running through our minds. Can this really be happening? What do we do now? Are we going to have a family? Am I going to finish college? And then what? How do kids become adults?

We headed for Grand Forks, North Dakota, after the wedding. We stayed at a Best Western hotel. Our room was $11.00. We had a wonderful evening together. The next day we had a late breakfast and headed back to our home town of Mayville, North Dakota. We couldn’t wait to get back to our new found home. I had college classes on Monday and Jesse had to get back to work at the hospital.

Jesse and I remember our wedding day as the beginning of our journey together. This year marks the beginning of 50 years together. I wonder if that was on our mind the night we walked down the isle together? Probably not!

Our Special Moment - April 28, 1967

31 years later our 2 daughters and their families surprised us by having us renew our vows at the Mall of America. To share our unity with our kids was a thrill of a lifetime. There were many tears shed.

Our daughters have blessed us with 5 grandchildren. We follow all their activities. Our family has always been the most important part of our lives. Jesse and I are now on Medicare and Social Security. Walking down the isle feels like yesterday. I know we were excited about our future. But our life together has exceeded our wildest dreams.

For those of you reading this blog, our wish is that you have or will experience a journey full of love and joy!

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Jesus Take The Wheel!


The year was 2005. Carrie Underwood was the new American Idol. The first song she recorded was “Jesus Take The Wheel“. The song and album went to outer space! Carrie Underwood has since taken the Country Music World by storm.

Jesus Take The Wheel

Jesus Take The Wheel is the story of going down the road of life and finding out we can’t always do it on our own. We all need help on our lifelong journey.

The year was 1953. We were living on a farm in North Dakota. It was to be a year never to be forgotten.

Dad was in the field. Mom was hanging clothes on the clothes line. When mom came back into the house, our infant sister was not breathing. She was trapped between the crib bars and the mattress. Mom drove to the field to get dad and we headed for the hospital. It was too late. Pamela Grace had gone to heaven.

jesus take the wheel

Six months later dad’s machine shed, with all of his important pieces of equipment, burned to the ground. How could mom and dad live through times like these? Mom told us that had it not been for their faith in God, they would have never made it.

Jesus Take The Wheel! It was time for our Lord Jesus Christ to step up!

Many people are experiencing the most difficult times of their lives. The ongoing recession is taking its toll on hard working families. Loss of jobs, loss of homes, or even loss of marriages have eaten away at a life’s work. There are many people who have lost their WILL to go on. It is time for Jesus to Take The Wheel.

Never, Never, Never Quit! There are reasons why things happen. I am not so sure I can always understand the Why. But I do know that God will never let us down. He will never abandon us. We need to reach back for everything we have and raise our level of trust, in our God. Not easy to do, but definitely possible and worthwhile.

Successful people will drive harder, they are more motivated, more resilent, more resourceful, they will work harder, you will not hear excuses from them, they will hand you the solution, not the problem, they will never quit, and most importantly they will not view themselves as the victim.

Jesus Take The Wheel

A young boy was determined to find someone who could provide him with knowledge and wisdom. He looked high and low. That day finally came. He found that person who could help him gain knowledge and wisdom. When he approached the man, the man grabbed him by the arm and dragged him to a small pond. He held the boy’s head under water. The boy was struggling for a breath of air. Finally, the man pulled the young boy out of the pond.

The boy was very angry. He told the man, I was looking for knowlegde and wisdom and you just about killed me. The man responded, when you want knowledge and wisdom as much as you wanted a breath of fresh air, you will acquire them.

I have spent about 60 years watching my mother and father overcome the challenges they have faced, in their lives. I know they have prayed often for the strength to get the job done!

For those of you reading this blog, my hope is that you find the strength to deal with the challenges you have and will face, in the future. Jesus Take The Wheel! Sounds like a good floor plan.

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